More often that not you will hear phases like “you can’t” or “you shouldn’t”. And even though these expressions come from an external source they tend to get internalized. When you hear the phases enough they become a part of your ingrained personality so that they actually do start to act as a road block for further development. The nay sayers aren’t there to make things better, they are reflecting on their ego, their self-esteem and then they project their insecurities onto you.
While this seems unfair, and you are right – it is, it doesn’t have to be the final word. They expect you to implement their suggestions. To, take their words of wisdom to heart. Not because it is what is best for you, but it is what they feel defines them
Of course there are always those among us that want the best, they tend to look beyond the basic forbidding and actually move toward a logical reason for the concern. This legitimate concern is something that you can build off of, learn from and act according to your final decision. The freedom to base your choice once the case is discussed is something that you will enjoy when somebody has true concern for your well being.
A true friend won’t forbid you from different pursuits, but they will express concern when they feel that it might lead to unexpected or desired ends.
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